Forever and for always

"Am yours forever" a common phrase we often hear when two people falls in love ❤️ with each other. It's no wonder that such words create a deep sense of comfort and blissful feeling in us. The assurance that someone we love and with whom we want to spend every second of our life will be there for us through thick and thin is a joy, words can't describe in totality. Often than not lover's tends to promise "I promise to love you in this life and for eternity" and many such forever and for always.

Though comforting such an assurance maybe, the reality is that we often falls out of each other's in most case. Forget about eternity those promise of forever often end up lastings not more than a couple of months or so. And we end up being a stranger with memories or rather a villain in his/her side of story. The point I want to drive here is "Why do we often falls out of each other's though at once we are 💯% into each other?".

There can be an infinite numbers of reason and varied sequence of events which led to such tragic ends. As second law of thermodynamics in general terms means "Nothing is permanent except change", the fundamental reason behind this is because we all are continuously changing. And when we fall in love with a person, we did so unconsciously as people say "Love is blind" or rather falls for say beauty, dressing sense, money etc. It's not that we never fall in love consciously but even while doing so we fail to comprehend what it is in totality.

Nature forbids that any of us are a perfect match for each other or that we would get a perfect partner if we continue searching. The reality here is that non of us are perfect and that we had to put in our labour to maintain a manageable relationship that last. The first step in process is to be frank and open with each other especially of one's dark side. As good as it is to know what turn you and your partner on, it's more important to knows what is the tipping point of each person inorder to maintain a healthy long relationship. Secondly, we need to discover and develop ways to cope up with each other not so pleasant moment. 'Habits die hard' and more true especially if we met our partners in their 20s or 30s, it can be a herculean task to changes one's habit at this point. Though one might be able to fake it for some moments, it's bound to show up sooner or later, so its better if one can find means to deal with or if one can truly compromise with it. 

Thirdly, all in all when one's looking out for a potential partners one must set for himself/herself what one truly want of the partners and not settle on a random persons. Not that we will find a person ticking all the buttons but one should differentiates the core and add-ons values and parameters. If one can find another person who ticks in those cores parameters, then the difference which might creep up in later times can be iron out smoothly without much ado.

Though no matter how careful one is in choosing or dealing with one's partners, things can fall apart and we can be back to square one again. Afterall thats the risk we all take when we give ourselves in when falling in love with another person. And knowing that even if we are deeply in love with each other, we can end up going separate ways should motivate to put in our best into the relationship. 

"Things are beautiful because they end" they say. So make the most of the moments and if it so happen in the end we fall out, then let memories be ours. Life afterall is not a fairy tale nor a wishful thinking and eternal love only happen in fictional story and myths.